Anti-Anti-Feminist

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I think it’s weird that teenage girls know more about giving blowjobs than they do about masturbation. It makes me sick to my stomach that so many young girls think sex is just about a guy finishing.
Elizabeth Olsen  (via contramonte)

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wretchedoftheearth:

The thing I hate most about “not all men" guys, or men who are affronted by the idea that they are schrodinger’s rapist, is that they act like women enjoy feeling that men may be dangerous. As if it’s something to lord over men rather than a shitty part of existing as a woman.

I know good and well that most men are not going to harm me, rape me, or harass me. When talking to an individual man, I don’t generally think “he’s probably a rapist.” but since I don’t know if he is, it doesn’t matter. This is particularly true because I know that if I let my guard down (and I have) and something bad happens to me, I will be blamed for it (and I have been). 

Then of course I feel silly - because I know that many men think I’m silly - for taking seemingly unnecessary precautions to protect my own safety. These men complain about the multitudes of women who, for some reason, seem to feel unsafe, but do absolutely nothing about the scores of men among them who make women feel unsafe and create a climate in which women cannot fully trust men.

Not to mention that it’s just all around shitty to think that not being trusted without reservations is comparable to feeling justifiably afraid for your safety and bodily autonomy.

This. But like, trying to explain this to the “not all men” guys is so difficult because generally they refuse to listen. I mean, they would have to be capable of critical thinking to understand this, which they’re not, so.

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deepbones:

Listen, when you use a word of hate ironically — like, and your defense is “I’m not racist, how could you ever think I’m racist??” I want you to imagine owning a gun, but never buying live ammunition. You only purchase blanks. Ok? And say sometimes when you hang out with your close friends, you take out your gun, which they know contains no live ammunition, and you shoot it at stuff, and you think it’s funny. And maybe the first time you do it, they’re like “Shit. I mean, I know those are blanks, but that’s kind of fucked up,” but your argument is, “But I can’t really hurt anyone! They’re just blanks!” And over time they just get used to it and find it kind of funny. “Oh, that Cliff, sometimes he takes his gun out and shoots some blanks, but he doesn’t really mean anything. It’s just funny! You know how it goes.” Now, imagine that over time, having received the acceptance for your actions from your friends, you decide you can start firing blanks around people you’ve never met. In mixed company. You’re at a dinner party one night, you’ve had a few, so you go “Hey, wanna see something cool?!” and those who are your friends at the party know what’s coming, so they’re prepared, but then the people who don’t know you, they see you whip out a piece and go “Oh shit, I’m going to die, it’s everything I feared,” but your friends explain to them it’s not a big deal, there’s nothing to be afraid of, “Cliff wouldn’t hurt a fly,” so they eventually, begrudgingly, don’t say anything about it, don’t call you, Cliff, a fucking asshole. “Fine, it’s kind of ridiculous, but whatever.” Something like that. And then you are at a large public place. A concert, an open mic, where you and your friends are outnumbered by the rest of the audience. And maybe someone pushes you or gives you a hard time, so you decide, just to give the guy a taste of his own medicine, to pull out your gun, and fire some blanks. Give him a real, real visceral jump. And everyone around you feels threatened, unsafe, about to be part of something they were always on some subconscious level afraid would happen, but at the same time hopeful it would never happen because our society’s getting smarter and more considerate of those around them. And then some other people, who after seeing it happen, feel relieved that you were firing blanks, but also feel empowered by your choice to fire a weapon in a public place, and choose to do the same thing. Do you get it yet? The fact is that derogatory remarks, whether used sincerely or ironically, and ammunition, whether blank or live, still creates the same environment of discomfort and fear every time it is used. So cut the shit.
- Junot Diaz

deepbones:

Listen, when you use a word of hate ironically — like, and your defense is “I’m not racist, how could you ever think I’m racist??” I want you to imagine owning a gun, but never buying live ammunition. You only purchase blanks. Ok?

And say sometimes when you hang out with your close friends, you take out your gun, which they know contains no live ammunition, and you shoot it at stuff, and you think it’s funny. And maybe the first time you do it, they’re like “Shit. I mean, I know those are blanks, but that’s kind of fucked up,” but your argument is, “But I can’t really hurt anyone! They’re just blanks!” And over time they just get used to it and find it kind of funny. “Oh, that Cliff, sometimes he takes his gun out and shoots some blanks, but he doesn’t really mean anything. It’s just funny! You know how it goes.”

Now, imagine that over time, having received the acceptance for your actions from your friends, you decide you can start firing blanks around people you’ve never met. In mixed company. You’re at a dinner party one night, you’ve had a few, so you go “Hey, wanna see something cool?!” and those who are your friends at the party know what’s coming, so they’re prepared, but then the people who don’t know you, they see you whip out a piece and go “Oh shit, I’m going to die, it’s everything I feared,” but your friends explain to them it’s not a big deal, there’s nothing to be afraid of, “Cliff wouldn’t hurt a fly,” so they eventually, begrudgingly, don’t say anything about it, don’t call you, Cliff, a fucking asshole. “Fine, it’s kind of ridiculous, but whatever.” Something like that.

And then you are at a large public place. A concert, an open mic, where you and your friends are outnumbered by the rest of the audience. And maybe someone pushes you or gives you a hard time, so you decide, just to give the guy a taste of his own medicine, to pull out your gun, and fire some blanks. Give him a real, real visceral jump. And everyone around you feels threatened, unsafe, about to be part of something they were always on some subconscious level afraid would happen, but at the same time hopeful it would never happen because our society’s getting smarter and more considerate of those around them. And then some other people, who after seeing it happen, feel relieved that you were firing blanks, but also feel empowered by your choice to fire a weapon in a public place, and choose to do the same thing.

Do you get it yet?

The fact is that derogatory remarks, whether used sincerely or ironically, and ammunition, whether blank or live, still creates the same environment of discomfort and fear every time it is used. So cut the shit.

- Junot Diaz

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smdxn:

‘Incarceration if you’re poor, payment if you’re rich’: Reports warn of debtors’ prisons

An NPR investigation into how judges assess fees and fines to defendants has revealed that many who enter the courtroom essentially end up in “debtor’s prisons…”
NPR noted that “defendants are charged for many government services that were once free, including those that are constitutionally required.” The ACLU and Human Rights Watch have documented how the rise of the for-profit prison system in a time of economic downturn has put pressure on states to incarcerate more defendants for increasingly trivial offenses, including the inability to pay court fees and court-ordered fines…
Miriam Aukerman, an attorney with the American Civil Liberties Union of Michigan, told NPR that “it’s not that it’s wrong to charge people money as a way to punish them. But there have to be alternatives for people who can’t pay. And that alternative cannot be: incarceration if you’re poor, payment if you’re rich.”
She believes judges may not use all of the available means at their disposal — including assigning community service or waiving the fines and fees entirely — to avoid sending defendants to prison.

smdxn:

‘Incarceration if you’re poor, payment if you’re rich’: Reports warn of debtors’ prisons

An NPR investigation into how judges assess fees and fines to defendants has revealed that many who enter the courtroom essentially end up in “debtor’s prisons…”

NPR noted that “defendants are charged for many government services that were once free, including those that are constitutionally required.” The ACLU and Human Rights Watch have documented how the rise of the for-profit prison system in a time of economic downturn has put pressure on states to incarcerate more defendants for increasingly trivial offenses, including the inability to pay court fees and court-ordered fines…

Miriam Aukerman, an attorney with the American Civil Liberties Union of Michigan, told NPR that “it’s not that it’s wrong to charge people money as a way to punish them. But there have to be alternatives for people who can’t pay. And that alternative cannot be: incarceration if you’re poor, payment if you’re rich.”

She believes judges may not use all of the available means at their disposal — including assigning community service or waiving the fines and fees entirely — to avoid sending defendants to prison.

(via cognitivedissonance)

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thebicker:

insigins:

theatregreek:

The fact that he was never actually outright “rejected” and simply expected girls to just come to him wanting to fuck him makes this even more pathetic.

even more scary too, knowing sickos like these might silently build up anger towards you without you ever doing anything to them or even noticing them

It terrifies me to think of someone becoming enraged just because I, as a woman, exist in his vicinity and am not paying attention to him. The manifesto was rife with examples of times he was sitting in silence and begrudging all the women around him for not throwing themselves at the lonely quiet dude sitting in the corner staring daggers at him. There was one point where he said he was sitting in the cafeteria, not talking to anyone. He said something like, “I didn’t go up to any women because I knew they would reject me. Women are so cruel.”
He didn’t give women an active chance to reject him. They would have been completely justified in doing so, but he didn’t. He didn’t even approach women. He felt like he deserved sex just for existing.
So yeah, no, he wasn’t “rejected by women.” He felt entitled to women despite putting no effort whatsoever (beyond driving a nice car and having nice clothes) into meeting a real human woman.

thebicker:

insigins:

theatregreek:

The fact that he was never actually outright “rejected” and simply expected girls to just come to him wanting to fuck him makes this even more pathetic.

even more scary too, knowing sickos like these might silently build up anger towards you without you ever doing anything to them or even noticing them

It terrifies me to think of someone becoming enraged just because I, as a woman, exist in his vicinity and am not paying attention to him. The manifesto was rife with examples of times he was sitting in silence and begrudging all the women around him for not throwing themselves at the lonely quiet dude sitting in the corner staring daggers at him. There was one point where he said he was sitting in the cafeteria, not talking to anyone. He said something like, “I didn’t go up to any women because I knew they would reject me. Women are so cruel.”

He didn’t give women an active chance to reject him. They would have been completely justified in doing so, but he didn’t. He didn’t even approach women. He felt like he deserved sex just for existing.

So yeah, no, he wasn’t “rejected by women.” He felt entitled to women despite putting no effort whatsoever (beyond driving a nice car and having nice clothes) into meeting a real human woman.

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Female Comic:
Being a woman is kind of a nightmare sometimes!
The General Public:
*crickets*
Louis CK:
Being a woman is kind of a nightmare sometimes!
The General Public:
*standing ovation* *balloons drop from ceiling* *Louis CK elected President of Comedy* Hahaha that is SO TRUE! I'm so glad this guy gets it! Have you heard his bit about how it's ok to say faggot?

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princessskittybot:

cishet people be like NOOO U CANT USE THAT TERM TO DESCRIBE UR SEXUALITY/GENDER ITS MADE UP WORD!!! and then turn around and make up ridiculous terms like mancrush and guyliner and man-purse in order to keep their precious hetronormitive gender roles intact

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Non-Binary Gender Terms Across Languages

gqid:

Although there are many English-language resources and glossaries about transgender, genderqueer, and non-binary terms, there are not as many in other languages. I have begun a few pages at the Non-Binary Wiki, which anyone can edit, to list terms and their meanings in a few languages:

Glossary of Chinese gender and sex terminology

Glossary of Japanese gender and sex terminology

Glossary of Korean gender and sex terminology

Glossary of Russian gender and sex terminology

Glossary of Spanish gender and sex terminology

More will be added - these were created as just a start to this project and anyone is welcome to create further language pages or edit the ones that already exist to add new terms, citations of sources, or correct any errors. I am focusing on collecting terms related to non-binary gender identity, although general gender and sex terms can also be added to these glossaries. I am very excited about this project!

~Marilyn

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